where I feel like I’m having to pretend to be someone else. How this plays out in my life, especially in the aspect of career, is that I struggle doing work I don’t believe in and isn’t aligned with who I am.Authenticity forces me to intensely evaluate why I’m doing what I’m doing and strive to do work aligned with my beliefs.I’d describe core values as beliefs that are fundamental to how you are wired, guiding your actions, thoughts, plans, and purpose on this earth.We all have values that direct us and help us make decisions – problem is most of us have never articulated what those values are.In marriage you begin to rub off on each other, subtly taking on traits and characteristics of the other.Does this thought excite you or does it make you feel like you just digested a can of the before mentioned Play-Doh? And you need to have your own identity beyond your spouse. If you don’t want to become like the person you’re dating, should you be dating?If you want to truly have a meaningful Valentines Day, try going through these 15 crucial questions that will help you get to “?
Does your partner seek out ways to understand how you receive love and meet that need? If you or the person you’re dating loves out of their insecurities, their love will be needy and selfish. Are they willing to honestly talk about money at all or is the topic taboo?As I wrote in “If your core values can’t dance together, then you’ll keep tripping, falling and wondering why you can’t move together in rhythm.” For example, you could have a high value for responsibility and the person you’re dating could have a high value for risk.Both values are good, but if not articulated and discussed it could be a point of high conflict if the responsible person likes consistency and persistence, while the risk-taker likes changing things up and going for the impossible.Thus my career path has been anything but straight-forward, which could drive any sane person crazy.Thankfully, my wife has been very supportive because she knew this was the way I was wired from the beginning and it aligns with her core beliefs, as she enjoys change and pursuing things off the beaten path.